Author Archives: nancypants8989

Trust is everything. How many things do you trust in a day? We trust for much in our lives and yet, we take that for granted.  You trust that your paycheck will land in your bank account, and trust for that bill to auto-pay. You trust that the food in front of you is goingContinue reading “Trust – The Gamechanger”

The first guy that I ever dated with kids was an experience. He had four of them, and this was a place where I first realized just how deep my grief was over not having a family and kids – the remnants related to the loss of my first marriage . They call this, “secondaryContinue reading “The Pillowcase”

I love my phone – and more importantly, not paying anything for my phone. Phones are generally just not an area I really want to spend my money on. However, recently after a few friends said that they could not hear me on the phone well enough, I gave in to the fact that IContinue reading “Committing To Letting Go”

Lately, I see grief everywhere. I went to go get blood taken this past week. The phlebotomist said I was a doppelganger to his old sister in law. He said it was a shock at first, because she had died. She passed away at age 38, 4 years ago from stomach cancer. I am 32.Continue reading “Grief, Grief Everywhere”

This might be a different perspective than what you typically might read on this subject. Often, I think that my prayers are too selfish to pray. So then, I either pray with little faith, or not at all.  There are 2 parts to this. 1. Do my prayers matter to God – are they powerful,Continue reading “My Selfish Prayers Matter”

I love the story of Leah and Rachel from the Bible, in Genesis 29. During my year and a half long separation before my divorce, I recall reading a devotional from Proverbs 31 ministries, and it deeply struck a chord with me. The summary of the story is this… There were two sisters, Leah andContinue reading “Leah & Rachel”

The theory of “Attachment”, or how we relate to others and ourselves based on our internal world, is one of THE most basic, yet crucial theories that show how these beliefs formed in our first few years of life, underlie the thoughts and feelings that shapes our lives throughout adulthood and through our work, relationships,Continue reading “Attachment – What, Why & God?”

The Gottman Institute (otherwise known as some know-it-all relationship experts) describe something called “gridlock” as the perpetual unsolvable issues that cycle within a relationship. Over half of our relationship conflicts are gridlock conflicts, and they come out of a difference of value and belief systems, but can typically be managed. In that process we haveContinue reading ““Shared Meaning” – A Deeper Look”

One day, I was sitting with a friend, sharing with them about how much it bothered me to waste food, but especially meat. He agreed, and when I asked why, I was surprised to find out that he had the same thought; life had been taken so that we could enjoy this meat and thereforeContinue reading “Grace & Meat”

Hi, my name is Nancy, and I think a LOT. I needed a place to put it all. After sharing some “articles” with some friends, of thoughts I come up with, I was encouraged to find a place online to share it. I love God and Psychology – specifically relationships and attachment style. Most ofContinue reading “It’s Meeee!”